Don’t worry- you didn’t come across as patronising at all. Sorry to hear of your negative experiences regardless, and I’m glad to hear that you’re mentally in a better place now. Mental health issues are never a nice thing.Ronnie wrote:It’s not about intelligence as such. We all have different life experiences that make us who we are.
Being able to admit your inadequacies is a good quality to have. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but all I can say is that I wish I had the confidence, self-knowledge and emotional intelligence that I have now, 30/40 years ago. It would’ve saved me years of battling depression and low self-esteem. I spent at least 10 years or more trapped in denial before i gained the courage to start admitting and dealing with my mental health issues. So if I come across as someone who thinks he’s got it all sussed, well that only applies to what works for me. But it doesn’t mean I haven’t been through any shit to get where i am in terms of being in a good place, mentally. And sometimes when you feel like you’ve got somewhere, it makes you want to pass in what bit of wisdom you might have attained. If that sometimes comes across patronising or a bit smug, then I apologise, it’s not meant to.
I can take the piss sometimes, but it’s only meant to be fun, not to be a cunt.
Also, i was a top wanker for years. I’ve earned my stripes. Lol
Yeah- I guess my lack of experience is what I mean when I refer to a lack of intelligence. I should have probably phrased it better. Although I endorse what I said about coming to terms with one’s inadequacies- it provides a means of listening to those more experienced than ourselves and allowing ourselves to advance emotionally and intellectually. If I come across as overly flexible in some of my posts in terms of how I interpret something or what I think of something, whether it be political, artistic or philosophical, it’s down to me listening to others and considering what they have said as opposed to changing my views for the sake of it. It’s best to maintain an open mind, though also remain objective when necessary and assess what one is being told. To clarify, I don’t endorse the postmodernist theory that truth is flexible, as such a philosophy defies the purpose of genuine knowledge and moronically presumes that objectivity and subjectivity are equal.
Anyway, enough of my waffling.