Suffering from a porn addiction.

Commander Maxil wrote:I'm not currently looking to be in a relationship. The girls I spoke to at college expected everything, offered nothing and played games I didn't know the rules to. I know not all girls are like that but my experiences did make me question why I was even wasting my time.

You have to learn to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal.
Act indifferent and let them come to you.
That's what I would tell my son if I had one!

bryanbraddock wrote:You have to learn to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal.
Act indifferent and let them come to you.
That's what I would tell my son if I had one!

Yeah, maybe this would be viable to anyone here who just so happens to have Greek God tier facial aesthetics. But for the rest of us Average Joe's, "Act indifferent and let them come to you" is fucking terrible advice.

DeadManRising wrote:Yeah, maybe this would be viable to anyone here who just so happens to have Greek God tier facial aesthetics. But for the rest of us Average Joe's, "Act indifferent and let them come to you" is fucking terrible advice.

Looks are only part of the package.
In my experience Women are more attracted to confidence and personality than anything else. Act like your gods gift, and that your fun to be with and you'll get more action than a handsome wallflower.

I have to agree with Dead Man. Women aren't typically going to 'come to you' if you don't have an aura of attractiveness - mostly referring to the physical.

Even then, acting truly 'indifferent' is a sure way to repel those who do make the first move. If you don't seem interested they likely have plenty of alternatives.

Being indifferent is a good attitude, doubtless, but you have to show enough interest for her to see it as worth her time.

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For Maxil.

If you want to get laid, easiest way is to go to a party or club where women are low-inhibition enough that their threshold for what counts as a good lay drops a few points. Stick around long enough and you should get something, so long as you're not hideous. They might not be terrible looking either.

It's about balance. You can't wait for someone to come to you that you've barely ever connected with, but if there's been some communication, dropping off can be a good way of ascertaining interest.

Women are funny creatures. Badger them and you're needy; ignore them completely and it irks them.

You have to play the game in order to win it. Sadly, most human interaction is like this.

Right now I'm feeling pretty ignored by friends and family, but I accept it, as I'm not exactly making a phenomenal effort to interact with others myself. The problem is when you try too hard. You can't - realistically - chastise people for not being in contact as that isn't how communication works these days.

Everyone is expendable in the digital age. People lie to you about not being online and you know they're lying to you. Once you accept that something more interesting and time-worthy has supplanted you, you can just get on with the filthy reality that life is an existentially bleak and lonely journey with a few brief glimmers of happiness.

There's no such thing as a free lunch. People are only interested in what you can give them socially, emotionally and economically, and vice-versa. I'm not even sure true friendships exist.

Yeah, it's all a fucking game.

If you don't like it you can always delete your account.

Some of them can look so beautiful sometimes. Very angelic.

My history with porn is that I got into it late and got bored of it early.

Honestly sex itself is fun mostly because of the ego boost.

I also swear that percentage of people I'm actually attracted to is depleting more and more over time, even my main targets of consideration right now are questionable in a few ways (even at the absolute top tier of anyone in my geographical area).

You should try to stimulate yourself with something more challenging, could-be-then the problem will seem quite trivial.

My sex drive is in a weird state rn.

Pornography does absolutely nothing and I have no desire to jack off, but I will get a semi- when an attractive girl is flirty with me.

At the same time, the practical aspect is pretty low and I haven't actually had sex with anyone from university yet.

I haven't masturbated or looked at porn for a whole week and I feel absolutely elated.

This is a really weird thread...

I'm so bored of pornography tbh.

Every weekend I mourn my failures to enter-into-sleeve and pop open a private browser typéd erotica.

Every weekend I subsequently close the browser in ennui.



So detatched is this repetitive uninspiring imitation of what wouldn't happen.
I can't believe it.
The girls are so often ugly.
If she isn't why would I want to watch her be railed by someone that isn't me.
At least give me POV.

And so I see this girl that calls herself my sister.
She looks so that I might have missed her.

She moans fragile and fictitious.

I literally cannot even jack off because it's so boring. Sexuality is boring without some kind of validation.

I hit a brick wall today. What scares me is how quickly my mental state can deteriorate over the course of only a few hours. I feel so afraid and alone and unable to stop worrying about things that are out of my control.

Man, I need to watch some McCoy.

TiberiusDidNothingWrong wrote:I'm so bored of pornography tbh.

Every weekend I mourn my failures to enter-into-sleeve and pop open a private browser typéd erotica.

Every weekend I subsequently close the browser in ennui.



So detatched is this repetitive uninspiring imitation of what wouldn't happen.
I can't believe it.
The girls are so often ugly.
If she isn't why would I want to watch her be railed by someone that isn't me.
At least give me POV.

And so I see this girl that calls herself my sister.
She looks so that I might have missed her.

She moans fragile and fictitious.

I literally cannot even jack off because it's so boring. Sexuality is boring without some kind of validation.

"So often ugly"

Really? I have very little trouble finding the sexy ones. My current obsession is Brianna Love, a sweetheart with one of the nicest bums Ive ever seen. I'd say the early to mid 00s are where to find the really good ones.

I think this excerpt from James O'Brien's book on how our modern society's free market capitalism run amok has enabled pernicious industries to ensnare and turn vulnerable people into paying addicts (he's describing gambling addiction, but he could just as easily be describing addiction to adult sites and chat rooms) is very pertinent here:

https://www.penguin.co.uk/articles/2019/may/james-o-brien-how-to-be-right-nanny-state.html

iank wrote:This is a really weird thread...

You Aussies think everything is weird.

"What's that weird thing over there in the bush, mate?"

"Beats me, mate. It looks a lot like one of those damn kangaroos. We'll come back s'arvo and investigate!"

I have just cancelled all of my porn memberships as well as deleted every single video I had paid for from my laptop. I'd rather die than let this filth control me forever. I vow to warn other men about the dangers of this brain poison and help put them on the right path. I'm also going to continue retaining my semen for spiritual reasons.