My family is going through a crisis. My 96 year old grandmother is dying, but is refusing to stay in the hospital. The hospital implamented a care package for her, so she had now returned home.
My mother is disabled and recently wrecked her car in the bad weather. Her husband is also disabled and has now the only car left. My sister has been helping a lot, and I appreciate that.
However....
The other day, the company in charge of sending carers to my grandmother fucked up entirely. Rota, scheduling, duties etc. My grandmother was left wearing soiled clothes and afraid to answer the door because the schedule she had been told was not happening, so she (as she is going demented) refused to answer the door when the carer came.
To help ease into the routine and iron out problems, my mother, who is also very ill, stayed with her all day to help her adust. She came home exhausted apparently.
Then yesterday happened.
The care company fucked up the care again, and my grandmother started to panic. Mum tried to call the care company to play hell and they turned out not to be passing on information. My step father drove her to my grandmother's house tp sort it out before bring her home.
My mother called me in Japan in tears. She said her mother isnt being cooparative and really should be in hospital. Caring for her is too much given her own fraily.
Anyway, at this point her husband had gone to work. Not having access to a car and having spent the last week purely caring for my grandmother meant that she had no food in stock.
So She called my elder sister. My sister refused because my mother wanted some meat. My sister claims to be vegetarian when he wants to be. She starts saying creepy shit about how her buddhist god (which is questionable anyway) wouldn't allow her to"harm others and if she did she should hurt herself."
Now this makes no sense anyway so some background info. My sister is a teacher (and frankly, she should'nt be) but has always acted strange. She will do crazy shit to always be the center of attention.
So I have my mother bawlling her eyes out sayng its all getting too much for her. I go on FB to message my sister to say grow up and help mum. She then sends me her BS answer. So I said she is a disgrace to the profession of teaching as a teacher should never refuse to help anyone based on personal beliefs. Both inside and outside of the classroom.
She replies with a picture of her wrists slit. So she essentialyl slit her wrists because she didn't want to buy meat for my mother.
So I spent last night (IN JAPAN) tryng to arrange an ambulance to her house, get nearby family to deal with it and console mum, while mum tries to deal with the poor care of the care company.
So basically, my sister has done it for attention again, because my gran is at the centre.
And my poor younger sister, who is also helping, got dragged into this mess and work is threatting to fire her if she keeps answering texts (which she has been doing) to help out with the crisis involvng my grandmother and now my insane sister.
I've asked my mother if I should come back to helpout, but the problem is I am in debt after a recent breakup and I wouldn't be entitled to any welfare for about a year having not been in the UK for 6 years.
My mother is at her witts end, my younger sister is overstreached and my insane sister is just making shit worse for everyone.
What can I do? I feel like a total wreck. What can I do?
PS= Sorry if this is unclear and babbly. I just came off a 12 hour shift and didn't sleep a wink during the night because of sorting this shit out. Now I have to go to work.
My mother is disabled and recently wrecked her car in the bad weather. Her husband is also disabled and has now the only car left. My sister has been helping a lot, and I appreciate that.
However....
The other day, the company in charge of sending carers to my grandmother fucked up entirely. Rota, scheduling, duties etc. My grandmother was left wearing soiled clothes and afraid to answer the door because the schedule she had been told was not happening, so she (as she is going demented) refused to answer the door when the carer came.
To help ease into the routine and iron out problems, my mother, who is also very ill, stayed with her all day to help her adust. She came home exhausted apparently.
Then yesterday happened.
The care company fucked up the care again, and my grandmother started to panic. Mum tried to call the care company to play hell and they turned out not to be passing on information. My step father drove her to my grandmother's house tp sort it out before bring her home.
My mother called me in Japan in tears. She said her mother isnt being cooparative and really should be in hospital. Caring for her is too much given her own fraily.
Anyway, at this point her husband had gone to work. Not having access to a car and having spent the last week purely caring for my grandmother meant that she had no food in stock.
So She called my elder sister. My sister refused because my mother wanted some meat. My sister claims to be vegetarian when he wants to be. She starts saying creepy shit about how her buddhist god (which is questionable anyway) wouldn't allow her to"harm others and if she did she should hurt herself."
Now this makes no sense anyway so some background info. My sister is a teacher (and frankly, she should'nt be) but has always acted strange. She will do crazy shit to always be the center of attention.
So I have my mother bawlling her eyes out sayng its all getting too much for her. I go on FB to message my sister to say grow up and help mum. She then sends me her BS answer. So I said she is a disgrace to the profession of teaching as a teacher should never refuse to help anyone based on personal beliefs. Both inside and outside of the classroom.
She replies with a picture of her wrists slit. So she essentialyl slit her wrists because she didn't want to buy meat for my mother.
So I spent last night (IN JAPAN) tryng to arrange an ambulance to her house, get nearby family to deal with it and console mum, while mum tries to deal with the poor care of the care company.
So basically, my sister has done it for attention again, because my gran is at the centre.
And my poor younger sister, who is also helping, got dragged into this mess and work is threatting to fire her if she keeps answering texts (which she has been doing) to help out with the crisis involvng my grandmother and now my insane sister.
I've asked my mother if I should come back to helpout, but the problem is I am in debt after a recent breakup and I wouldn't be entitled to any welfare for about a year having not been in the UK for 6 years.
My mother is at her witts end, my younger sister is overstreached and my insane sister is just making shit worse for everyone.
What can I do? I feel like a total wreck. What can I do?
PS= Sorry if this is unclear and babbly. I just came off a 12 hour shift and didn't sleep a wink during the night because of sorting this shit out. Now I have to go to work.