I think I have a bit of a dom streak (possibly to do with being hopelessly meek and inassertive in real life). I like to order a woman around in the bedroom and slyly demean her. I like making all the dirty, demeaning talk (for some reason women's dirty bedroom talk has rarely really done it for me and often comes off a little fake, unless she's a sub who can be really good at shocking me with the things she's willing to let men do to her- that usually gets me wild). I'm not majorly into bondage or whipping. I think handcuffs or rather binding her tightly with silk is as far as I'd go but I do like the idea. I like tight leather on a woman too.
Since discovering that streak I've felt strangely a lot more comfortable about myself.
Trouble is I think I'm too lazy for the full dom lifestyle, and as this guy explains.... you can't be a lazy dom.
It does seem like most people's irl dom/sub quality is reversed in the bedroom, but it may only be based on novel cases.
Back in my loser days my fantasies were fairly dom. Since my irl personality has leaned towards dom I can comprehend sub fantasies more so - I get it, what you don't get gets you off. Overall, I don't like either tbh.
TiberiusDidNothingWrong wrote:It does seem like most people's irl dom/sub quality is reversed in the bedroom, but it may only be based on novel cases.
Back in my loser days my fantasies were fairly dom. Since my irl personality has leaned towards dom I can comprehend sub fantasies more so - I get it, what you don't get gets you off. Overall, I don't like either tbh.
I think I can appreciate dom women, I just don't like to watch the sub male relishing being on the receiving end in those kind of videos. I find that a bit of a turnoff, even though of course I can't be in any position to judge because I know what it's like to have a dom fetish and to desire the female equivalent of him.